Friday, May 23, 2008
Tuesday, May 13, 2008
Monday, May 05, 2008
real fake friends
This may be a touchy subject, but what the hell. It's 1:50am and I have a 8:15 class tomorrow (my last class here in business school!). But anyway... I was thinking about something that happened today that I'm a bit irked about.
Now how can I do this without being anything remotely specific but still get the point across...
OK... so maybe I should start by saying what I mean by a fake friend. A fake friend is (in this case at least) someone who asks to be your friend on facebook, but they aren't really your friend. In fact, not even someone you would consider an acquaintance. I may know who you are, but I have no real expectation of talking to you, hanging out with you, or doing anything with you. BUT, for the sake of social "norms" and to avoid offending people who actually do consider me a friend/acquaintance, I accept.
So what's a real fake friend? I'm a believer (not to be confused with evangelist) of the theory that if you act in accordance to certain expectations, it'll become a reality. At work it would be how filling in bigger roles can lead to a promotion. In this case it would be if you act as if you're good friends with someone, it can actually facilitate the "friend-making" process. A real fake friend is someone who hasn't really made it to the friend level yet, but has this mentality. So when duty calls, they fill the role accordingly.
Tonight I had my first interaction EVER with one of these fake friends. Needless to say, I wasn't impressed. Rather than casual friendliness to be expected of people (ANYONE... not just friends or fake friends), what I got was a bit of hostility and belligerence. Fake friend in this case seemed more like an aspirational enemy. What the hell?
Periodically I go through and purge my fake friends. Tonight I made a special occasion to delete this false link. No hard feelings, fake buddy. I'm just following the social norm called reciprocity.
Also, I'm not sure how well connected this person is, but it's generally not a good idea to randomly create conflict with people. Now, I'm not going to go around slandering your name in public because of this. I'm not really into that. But, don't expect me to forget this if you decide to ask me for favors down the road either.
Perhaps if I feel nice in the morning I'll forward this post to the person I'm talking about.
Now how can I do this without being anything remotely specific but still get the point across...
OK... so maybe I should start by saying what I mean by a fake friend. A fake friend is (in this case at least) someone who asks to be your friend on facebook, but they aren't really your friend. In fact, not even someone you would consider an acquaintance. I may know who you are, but I have no real expectation of talking to you, hanging out with you, or doing anything with you. BUT, for the sake of social "norms" and to avoid offending people who actually do consider me a friend/acquaintance, I accept.
So what's a real fake friend? I'm a believer (not to be confused with evangelist) of the theory that if you act in accordance to certain expectations, it'll become a reality. At work it would be how filling in bigger roles can lead to a promotion. In this case it would be if you act as if you're good friends with someone, it can actually facilitate the "friend-making" process. A real fake friend is someone who hasn't really made it to the friend level yet, but has this mentality. So when duty calls, they fill the role accordingly.
Tonight I had my first interaction EVER with one of these fake friends. Needless to say, I wasn't impressed. Rather than casual friendliness to be expected of people (ANYONE... not just friends or fake friends), what I got was a bit of hostility and belligerence. Fake friend in this case seemed more like an aspirational enemy. What the hell?
Periodically I go through and purge my fake friends. Tonight I made a special occasion to delete this false link. No hard feelings, fake buddy. I'm just following the social norm called reciprocity.
Also, I'm not sure how well connected this person is, but it's generally not a good idea to randomly create conflict with people. Now, I'm not going to go around slandering your name in public because of this. I'm not really into that. But, don't expect me to forget this if you decide to ask me for favors down the road either.
Perhaps if I feel nice in the morning I'll forward this post to the person I'm talking about.
car update
The a/c isn't getting fixed. Why? I'll be in Seattle where my car can live virtually forever and last time I checked it doesn't get too hot up there.
But, right now my timing belt and water pump is getting replaced (every 90k miles... $770 + tax) and I just ordered a few more parts that need to be replaced. A headlamp (it's got a huge bulls-eye crack and another crack in it... $125-ish) and also another anti-lock brake sensor ($125-ish).
I like to brag about how maintenance is like a car payment, but this month's car payment really sucks! Next month I get to have my windshield replaced. Hopefully it'll be covered by insurance.
But, right now my timing belt and water pump is getting replaced (every 90k miles... $770 + tax) and I just ordered a few more parts that need to be replaced. A headlamp (it's got a huge bulls-eye crack and another crack in it... $125-ish) and also another anti-lock brake sensor ($125-ish).
I like to brag about how maintenance is like a car payment, but this month's car payment really sucks! Next month I get to have my windshield replaced. Hopefully it'll be covered by insurance.
Sunday, May 04, 2008
great weekend... till now?
Karaoke
Brunch in Jamaica Plain
Samuel Adams Brewery tour
Bowling
Awesome Red Sox game at Fenway
Helped SOM/FES win the IM Ultimate Frisbee Championship
Ice Cream Social
Now I need to write a paper or two. Damn.
Brunch in Jamaica Plain
Samuel Adams Brewery tour
Bowling
Awesome Red Sox game at Fenway
Helped SOM/FES win the IM Ultimate Frisbee Championship
Ice Cream Social
Now I need to write a paper or two. Damn.
Saturday, May 03, 2008
Wednesday, April 30, 2008
Saturday, June 14th
Orioles Game
Sleep at Darin and TC's
Sunday, June 15th
Leave at 8am
Drive to Pittsburgh
Carnegie Museums (Art and Natural History)
Drive to Cleveland
Monday, June 16th
Roughly 9 hour drive (Google)
Saint Louis
Tuesday, June 17th
Arch
Cardinals Game @ 7:15pm
Wednesday, June 18th
Touch Kansas
Drive through the Ozarks
Sleep somewhere on the way to Dallas (whatever's cheap)
Thursday, June 19th
Texas Rangers Game @ 1:00
Drive to Houston?
Friday, June 20th
Drive to Austin
Hang out in Austin
Saturday, June 21st
Hang out in Austin
Sunday, June 22nd
Drive to Abilene for lunch
Drive to Carlsbad area
Monday, June 23rd
Guadalupe Mountains NP
Guadalupe Peak Hike
Tuesday, June 24th
Carlsbad Caverns NP
White Sands NM
Drive towards Tuscon
Saguaro NP?
Wednesday, June 25th
Drive to Grand Canyon
Thursday, June 26th
Grand Canyon NP
South Rim
Drive to Kanab
Friday, June 27th
Zion NP
That trail that JT talked about that we missed last time
Drive to Las Vegas (or past it, if possible Indian Springs,NV?)
Saturday, June 28th
Leave damn early
Drive through Death Valley NP
Drive to Sequoia NP (Visalia, CA?)
Sunday, June 29th
Sequoia NP/King's Canyon NP
Monday, June 30th
Sequoia NP/King's Canyon NP
Drive through Yosemite NP
Lee Vining, CA (possible to stay here???)
Tuesday, July 1st
Drive to Moab, UT
Wednesday, July 2nd
Arches NP
Drive to Boulder
Thursday, July 3rd
Rocky Mountain NP
Friday, July 4th
Saturday, July 5th
Drive to Devils Tower
Devils Tower
Drive to Rapid City
Sunday, July 6th
Mount Rushmore
Drive to Theodore Roosevelt NP
Theodore Roosevelt NP
Drive to Billings, or farther?
Monday, July 7th
Yellowstone NP
Tuesday, July 8th
Grand Teton NP
Wednesday, July 9th
Drive towards Seattle
Thursday, July 10th
Seattle!!!
Orioles Game
Sleep at Darin and TC's
Sunday, June 15th
Leave at 8am
Drive to Pittsburgh
Carnegie Museums (Art and Natural History)
Drive to Cleveland
Monday, June 16th
Roughly 9 hour drive (Google)
Saint Louis
Tuesday, June 17th
Arch
Cardinals Game @ 7:15pm
Wednesday, June 18th
Touch Kansas
Drive through the Ozarks
Sleep somewhere on the way to Dallas (whatever's cheap)
Thursday, June 19th
Texas Rangers Game @ 1:00
Drive to Houston?
Friday, June 20th
Drive to Austin
Hang out in Austin
Saturday, June 21st
Hang out in Austin
Sunday, June 22nd
Drive to Abilene for lunch
Drive to Carlsbad area
Monday, June 23rd
Guadalupe Mountains NP
Guadalupe Peak Hike
Tuesday, June 24th
Carlsbad Caverns NP
White Sands NM
Drive towards Tuscon
Saguaro NP?
Wednesday, June 25th
Drive to Grand Canyon
Thursday, June 26th
Grand Canyon NP
South Rim
Drive to Kanab
Friday, June 27th
Zion NP
That trail that JT talked about that we missed last time
Drive to Las Vegas (or past it, if possible Indian Springs,NV?)
Saturday, June 28th
Leave damn early
Drive through Death Valley NP
Drive to Sequoia NP (Visalia, CA?)
Sunday, June 29th
Sequoia NP/King's Canyon NP
Monday, June 30th
Sequoia NP/King's Canyon NP
Drive through Yosemite NP
Lee Vining, CA (possible to stay here???)
Tuesday, July 1st
Drive to Moab, UT
Wednesday, July 2nd
Arches NP
Drive to Boulder
Thursday, July 3rd
Rocky Mountain NP
Friday, July 4th
Saturday, July 5th
Drive to Devils Tower
Devils Tower
Drive to Rapid City
Sunday, July 6th
Mount Rushmore
Drive to Theodore Roosevelt NP
Theodore Roosevelt NP
Drive to Billings, or farther?
Monday, July 7th
Yellowstone NP
Tuesday, July 8th
Grand Teton NP
Wednesday, July 9th
Drive towards Seattle
Thursday, July 10th
Seattle!!!
Tuesday, April 29, 2008
chillin
ago I was writing a paper, last two hours I've been enjoying some
fantastic live music. Temple Grill for dinner + drinks in half an
hour. Good times.
Saturday, April 26, 2008
Friday, April 25, 2008
five nights
Wednesday: 7pm through 12am @ Beer tasting and Hot Tomato's
Thursday: 6pm through 3am @ LDP, Black Bear, and Club Med
Friday through Sunday: Bachelor party.
Seems like spring is here.
Thursday: 6pm through 3am @ LDP, Black Bear, and Club Med
Friday through Sunday: Bachelor party.
Seems like spring is here.
Wednesday, April 23, 2008
Tuesday, April 22, 2008
the merrier month of may
...add on a Red Sox home game at Fenway.
After that, Yankees Stadium, Shea, and Fenway will have been experienced. Might also hit up games with the Orioles, Nationals, Astros, Pirates, Cardinals, Rangers, and Rockies while driving across the country. Why not? Evenings are usually downtime anyway.
After that, Yankees Stadium, Shea, and Fenway will have been experienced. Might also hit up games with the Orioles, Nationals, Astros, Pirates, Cardinals, Rangers, and Rockies while driving across the country. Why not? Evenings are usually downtime anyway.
the merry month of may
List of activities, in no particular order:
Visit the Sam Adams Brewery in Boston
Watch the Daily Show - in person
Indians game in Cleveland
Visit the Great Lakes Brewery in Cleveland
Visit Maia in Orlando
Class trip to the Hard Rock in Hollywood, FL
Wine tasting with the Marketing professors
JT and Alissa's birthday and end of year celebration at Hula Hanks
Graduation
One last final exam, one last project, and one last paper.
Visit the Sam Adams Brewery in Boston
Watch the Daily Show - in person
Indians game in Cleveland
Visit the Great Lakes Brewery in Cleveland
Visit Maia in Orlando
Class trip to the Hard Rock in Hollywood, FL
Wine tasting with the Marketing professors
JT and Alissa's birthday and end of year celebration at Hula Hanks
Graduation
One last final exam, one last project, and one last paper.
Sunday, April 20, 2008
mission accomplished
I was sitting here on my computer listening to some music and playing this game that a friend of mine recommended on his blog. That, combined with the "heat" of a nice spring day in New Haven was apparently too much for my computer to bear. It overheated and shut itself down to keep itself from self-destructing (literally).
Sigh... That was the final straw that got me to do what I should have done a while ago - clean out my computer. 45 minutes later, the HSF can now support airflow. Instead of running at 60C+, it's now running at 50C, which is 10C less than it was earlier today (with the case off for that matter), and a full 6-8C less than what it generally ran over the past winter. It also booted up much much faster, perhaps because it wasn't throttling itself to keep itself from the brink of death as it's probably been doing for the past two years. Maybe I don't need a new computer after all! Just a bigger hard drive and more RAM...
Sigh... That was the final straw that got me to do what I should have done a while ago - clean out my computer. 45 minutes later, the HSF can now support airflow. Instead of running at 60C+, it's now running at 50C, which is 10C less than it was earlier today (with the case off for that matter), and a full 6-8C less than what it generally ran over the past winter. It also booted up much much faster, perhaps because it wasn't throttling itself to keep itself from the brink of death as it's probably been doing for the past two years. Maybe I don't need a new computer after all! Just a bigger hard drive and more RAM...
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